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This Life That Is Ours offers 40 gentle meditations with guidance for reflection on the spiritual journey of motherhood. These practical, soul-affirming meditations nurture a mother's heart and spiritual life in an overwhelming season. Through the lens of Burdette's real-life stories, the reader is invited to ponder her experience and to contemplate where God might be present.

This book is divided into three sections. Reflections in the first section, "Becoming a Mother," explore the dynamics of being a new mother and the whirlwind experience of those early months and years. The second section, "Becoming Yourself," considers what it means to return home to yourself—to begin to find your identity again, both within the realm of motherhood and outside of it. The third section, "Becoming Holy," names the holy paradoxes of motherhood—the ways it can be both extraordinary and mundane, both gift and sacrifice—ultimately deepening one's experience of the holiness of motherhood.

This Life That Is Ours can be used individually or in small groups. It would make a great gift of gratitude for any mother in your life. The book is not just for moms: it is helpful reading for anyone in relationship with mothers.


Advanced praise for This Life That Is Ours:

Lauren weaves her vocations of motherhood and spiritual direction in a profound way in This Life That is Ours. From the opening paragraphs, she hits on the authentic longings of a mother’s heart as we journey to find God not only in prayer but in homes that echo with voices of children. As I savored her every word, I remembered my own path of becoming a mother twelve years ago. Lauren’s real sharing of her life stirred deep reflection on my own journey as a mother that left me with a deeper appreciation of the holiness of my call and how much God has been at work in it all along.
— Becky Eldredge, spiritual director, author of Busy Lives & Restless Souls

Lauren Burdette cultivates a warm intimacy with her readers as she accompanies us on a reflective pilgrimage through our experience of motherhood. Her simple meditations on different aspects of maternity run deep, carving out welcome space for contemplation amidst a calling that can seem more chaotic than calm. The result is this beautiful book that heals, renews, and allows us to “rest in the realities of motherhood.” This Life That Is Ours is for every woman seeking to integrate her lived experience of mothering into her spiritual practice, and the other way around.
— Carrie Frederick Frost, PhD, author of Maternal Body: A Theology of Incarnation from the Christian East

Lauren Burdette’s writing is winsome, inviting, and honest, and these meditations overflow with wisdom and grace. Reading This Life That Is Ours is like spending time with a trusted soul friend, and I have no doubt that’s what this book will allow Lauren to become for women who are looking for God and their truest selves as they explore the terrain of motherhood. Even as a father, this book has helped me reconnect with the grit and grace of the holy work of parenting.
— L. Roger Owens, PhD, author of What We Need is Here and Abba, Give Me a Word

In the thoughtful and accessible reflections she has crafted, Lauren Burdette affirms the sacred work of motherhood and invites us on a path of rest and formation—to step more fully into motherhood, authentic self and the messy embodiment of God’s love in the midst of family life. This book is a gift for mothers seeking greater connection!
— Lisa Scandrette, coauthor of Belonging and Becoming: Creating a Thriving Family Culture and FREE

Part devotional, part memoir, part spiritual field guide for mothers, Lauren Burdette has crafted a book that simultaneously offers both practical wisdom and contemplative insight into the journey of parenthood. This Life that is Ours is a warm invitation for mothers to see the challenging and often overwhelming task of parenting through new, transformed eyes. This book is a wise and trustworthy companion to accompany you on a journey deep into the heart of mothering and deep into the heart of the divine.
— Ryan Kuja, spiritual director and author of From the Inside Out

I used to think I was a calm and loving person until I had children. Lauren understands this and reminds us that it is in, not in spite of the mess and chaos of this sacred community that deep spiritual formation can occur. This gorgeous little book is a welcome traveling companion with short, spot-on meditations that help us connect to God and ourselves in the midst of what can be a disconnecting, lonely season. Motherhood IS spiritual practice as it offers the continuous ego-slap-down that can break us open and wake us up to the Kingdom of Heaven in our midst. Isn’t this what Jesus said little children do?

Lauren invites us with humility and wisdom to dance with her in the chaos that pushes us beyond our limitations and illusions of control. As a gifted spiritual director she gently guides us to embrace the messiness, tensions, mistakes and insecurities alongside the heart-piercing beauty and magical moments of motherhood; reminding us of God’s presence in and through it all, drawing us to become deeply ourselves, holy and held in a Divine embrace.
— Beth Slevcove, spiritual director, hospice chaplain, author of Broken Hallelujahs

‘Your pilgrimage is your journey back home.’ This insight sets the tone for the rest of Lauren Burdette’s engaging book of reflections on motherhood and holiness.There is wisdom here for mothers, yes, but here’s a connecting point, too, for anyone seeking to support the mothers around us. Burdette points us to that place where we find our truest selves.
— John Feister, editor (retired), Franciscan Media

In a world that provides so many conflicting messages for parents, along comes Lauren’s book that invites, inspires and above all affirms your own parenting style and path. It reminds you that in the messy and chaotic life, moments of pure love, awe and wonder abound. You are exactly where you need to be.
— Kristen Hobby, PhD, author of Nurturing a Gentle Heart